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How to divorce a narcissist

No one expects to marry a narcissist. Unfortunately, it happens. It may put spouses in a horrible situation where they feel like they cannot leave and suffer at the hands of an emotionally abusive partner. But what can you do?

Luckily, divorce is still an option. It may seem harder to leave, but it can be done with the right support system and knowing what to expect during the proceedings.

Personal injury settlements should be carefully considered

Personal injury cases sometimes result in going through a trial, but this isn't the only way that they can be resolved. Sometimes, the lawsuit is handled through the settlement process.

There are many benefits and some drawbacks to this type of resolution. If you are considering a settlement, you should be sure that you are aware of the following points. They might help you to decide whether you want to proceed.

Protect your marriage from social media faux pas

Marriage can be a tricky process to navigate. But some couples make it harder than it has to be due to what they share and do on social media sites.

According to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML), one survey from 2010 indicated that more than 80 percent of family law attorneys had cases that were affected by social media postings. Below are a few ways that your social media use could adversely affect your marriage.

  • Not being honest about online activities. Facebook makes it simple to reconnect with people from the past, from friends in the neighborhood to former teachers and first loves. Hiding your online connections from your spouse can wreck your marriage.
  • Screen time tops face time. It's easy to get sucked into social media drama and neglect real-life relationships. All the energy expended maintaining an online persona, e.g., responding to, posting and "liking" status updates on Twitter and Facebook, could instead be invested in your marriage.
  • Comparing your life to others' lives. People can spend an inordinate amount of time curating their online posts to make it appear as if they are leading perfect lives. If you fall into the comparison trap, you may find yourself lacking.
  • Reconnecting with old loves. Many people look back on their first loves while wearing rose-colored shades. When you're young, your worries center around things like prom dates and SAT scores, and it's a slippery slope if you climb into the Wayback Machine with a former partner. However, doing so can put your marriage in jeopardy.
  • Oversharing personal information. If your marriage hits a rough patch, it's not necessary or helpful to share the lurid details with your 525 Facebook friends. Choose a tight-lipped friend to rant to or seek counseling.
  • Idealizing the single life. Just as there are benefits to being married, there are some to being single as well. But if social media makes you long for the days you were footloose and fancy free, you may need to unplug and devote more time to your spouse.

A property division checklist will keep you on track

There are many challenges standing in your way as you move through the divorce process. For many people, there is nothing more important than property division.

It's important to realize that you'll need to compromise along the way. You aren't going to get everything you want, but at the same time you won't end up with nothing.

Understanding the property division process in an IL divorce

You didn't plan to end up divorced when you got married, so you never even thought of executing a prenuptial agreement. Now, you're staring a potential divorce down and feeling incredibly nervous about the possible outcome. There's all kinds of misinformation out there. Will your spouse get everything, while you walk away from your marriage a pauper? It seems like the internet is full of stories about people who lost everything in their divorce.

The reality of a divorce in Illinois is much less frightening than how the online horror stories may make it seem. Social media can promote exaggeration and even lying, making it hard to know what to expect. Generally speaking, the courts will do their best to ensure the process is fair to you, your spouse and any children that you have together. However, every family is unique, so it's impossible to accurately predict exactly how assets will get split between spouses.

Be mindful of your surroundings and prevent rear-end car crashes

It happens something like this: You're on your way to work at around 6:30 a.m. The sun isn't quite up, and the morning fog has yet to burn away, so visibility isn't perfect. You get a text from your husband, and you think it's safe to quickly respond, but when you look up from your phone you're surprised by a red light.

You stop a little too quickly for comfort and see another driver speeding toward you from behind. There's no way he's going to stop in time and, "smash," he hits you.

7 things you should do after a car accident

No one leaves the house planning to get in a car accident. You were just planning a quick run to the grocery store. You put your kids in the back seat, in their carseats, and headed out to the closest store. It was ten minutes away, but you didn't even make it halfway there. Another driver thought that a two-way stop was actually a four-way stop, didn't yield the right of way and pulled out in front of you. You slammed on the brakes, but you still smashed into the side of the other car at close to 60 miles per hour.

It's hectic and crazy, but there are seven things you need to try to remember to do after the accident:

How social media could harm your divorce case

We use social media every day. We post pictures of our children to Facebook, talk about our frustrations or triumphs with friends and share our everyday activities through tweets. Most people do not realize the consequences these posts might have on serious matters, such as a divorce. Emails, texts and any online posts can be used as evidence in court, which could affect the outcome of your divorce.