You want to get divorced, but you don’t want to spend the next year slogging your way through the court system. It’s taken you a while to get to the point of actually asking your spouse for a divorce. Where you’re at now, you just want to be done with it. You want to move on to the next stage in your life. How can you make it go faster?
The biggest thing you can do is to work with your spouse. A collaborative divorce is one that is a low-conflict split. You’re not going to court to fight about property rights or time with the children. Instead, you’re sitting down together and figuring out what works for both of you. You’re in this together, as a team, trying to quickly end the marriage and set yourselves — and your kids — up for the best possible post-divorce life.
A similar thing that can speed up a divorce is to communicate clearly and easily with your spouse. Divorce often gets complicated when there is a misunderstanding or when one person, perhaps feeling hurt by the prospect of divorce, refuses to talk to the other. If you communicate well, you eliminate mistakes, streamline the process and help fast-track your divorce.
As you can imagine, these two ideas go hand-in-hand. Using collaboration or mediation means you have to communicate and work together constantly, and that’s the key to a faster divorce.
Divorce doesn’t have to be the way most people assume it always is: difficult and time-consuming. You do have options that can make it faster and easier. Be sure you know what they are.