In some ways, you can think of divorce like bankruptcy. If you declare bankruptcy, it’s because you’re in a difficult financial position, perhaps through no fault of your own, and you want a fresh start. With divorce, you’re in a difficult personal position, also possibly through no fault of your own, and you need a fresh start. Bankruptcy resets your finances, while divorce resets your relationships.
Why is this mindset important?
Thinking of divorce this way is important because too many people fall into the trap of feeling like a failure. Instead, you need to realize that people make mistakes. It’s how you respond to them that matters, not whether or not you made them. Maybe your marriage was an error, but you can correct it.
When you do, you have a chance to create the life that you want for yourself. Maybe your marriage taught you what you really want in a partner. Maybe it showed you that you’re better off alone. Maybe it just opened your eyes to the fact that you ignored clear relationship warning signs, something you won’t do again.
No matter what, you learned from that marriage. Ending it isn’t a failure. It may be the best thing for you. It’s part of the learning process. You’re growing and changing, and that’s important. Your divorce gives you an opportunity to improve your life and your future.
If you’re thinking about getting a divorce, it’s crucial to understand every aspect of the process. Take the time to consider your legal options carefully as you do. Your family law attorney can help you.