It is realistic to want to share what happens to you on a day-to-day basis online. When major events happen in your life, you might want to let people in your family know and have a social media account available where you can post a “one and done” explanation of your current circumstances.
While it’s easy to use social media, it’s not the best option when you’re going through a divorce. A simple post, like “I’m getting a divorce,” might not be a big deal, but if you start posting photos of yourself, writing negative posts about your spouse or putting up videos partying or celebrating, you might hurt your case.
Avoid social media to protect yourself during divorce
In a divorce, you will need to negotiate with your spouse. One of the things you don’t want to do is to give your spouse ammunition to use against you in court. For example, putting up photos of yourself partying with friends in new outfits or in a new vehicle might seem fine, but if you seek spousal support, your spouse might point to all of those new things and suggest that you don’t really need what you’re asking for.
Similarly, if you are fighting a custody battle, you don’t want to have friends posting pictures of you drunk or involved in fights or arguments. You want to look good in the eyes of the court, and that can sometimes mean limiting what is shown online.
What’s the best option for handling social media during divorce?
The best thing for you to do when you know you’re getting divorced is to take steps to lock down your social media accounts. There are a few things you should do right away.
You should start with changing your passwords to make sure your spouse doesn’t have them. Block or remove friends who you don’t want to see your past or future posts. Then, disable your account (if possible). This will limit who can see any of your history on social media, which helps protect you as you go through the motions with your court case.